Dear Bear,

Most activities I've found in life fall under one of two categories: the things we should do but don't, and things we like to do but do too much of.

When we find something we like, it's easy to do often — the games we like to play, the music we like to listen to, the food we like to eat — these things we keep doing until either we can no longer afford to, or it no longer holds our interests.

Because as readily available as most things are, it's easy to have too much of it, and when the appeal is lost — the games we used to enjoying play, the songs we used to enjoy listening to, the food we used to enjoy eating — all of these will begin to feel bland and tasteless.

So we move on to the next best thing — the next great game, the next great song, the next great meal; it isn't something we worry about because we know that even if we become numb to any one experience, it's just one of many more experiences to come.

We take for granted experiences we can replace.

And sometimes, we take for granted even the experiences we can't.

Sometimes we take for granted, even our relationships.

For many of us, it's easy to remember the first date we've been on with our significant other, the first kiss we've shared, the first movie watched and all those long night calls — when time seemed to freeze, when everything felt right even when the future was uncertain, when everything felt possible, as long as they were by our side.

These are moments we remember.

But no longer experience.

Because gone are the days when we would still wake up excited to be in a relationship; gone are the days when we would deliberately make time for one another; gone are the days when we would prioritize our relationship over work.

Somewhere along the way, we too became numb; too used to being with one another as we did our games, our songs and our food.

But unlike that of what is easily replaceable, relationships aren't.

And that's why we continue to try, to every day put in more effort than the last, to invest even further into our relationship.

This is a page I've created for us — a compilation of all the letters we've written and will continue to write, starting with my series to you called P.S. I Love You, because I want us to remember that our relationship matters.

That we matter.


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